Patrick & Ygy only became a couple five months before their wedding. They initially planned a simple civil ceremony by the beach, but eventually relented to a church wedding soon after to honor their parents’ wishes. Ygy shares with us how proud she is they were able pull both off despite the time and budget constraints. ~Abet & Benz
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I can’t believe I just got married. Twice. To the same man. On the same month. Of the same year.
What started as a single, solemn, intimate affair evolved into a two-part initiative which pretty much involved our families, relatives and those who are close to us. Both weddings became non-traditional endeavors for me and my groom. Why? Perhaps we can start with the most spontaneous decision that triggered it all: although Patrick and I have known each other for 5 years, it was only in July of 2012 that we officially became a couple. Five months later, we got married.
You can just imagine the reactions that we got from everyone. Believe me, we were hearing the same sentiment from everyone all throughout the planning and preparation period, but we stood our ground and decided to get married right away. After all, why waste time when you can just seize the day?
So what was the main challenge? Limited time. Limited funds.
I do wedding planning and coordination part-time, but even I can only do so much. We originally planned to have an intimate beach wedding in December 2012, then hold our church wedding in 2014 to give us ample time to prepare; knowing that the church ceremony would be a bigger affair. It was only in October 2012 that we finally “gave in” to what both our parents were requesting: hold our church wedding on the same year so that we can start our married life with a blessing. Yes, that was only two months to prepare for both events!
And so, the solution: keep it simple, straightforward, and DIY. We went through the whole process – pamanhikan with our families, attending government and church seminars, personally visiting our ninongs and ninangs, and processing all requirements needed for marriage. But of course, it didn’t mean that we couldn’t infuse our own unique ideas, tastes, preferences, as well as personalities into both affairs! Below are some details from each wedding and see how we became quite creative in our own simple ways.
December 27, 2012 / 25 guests
Villa Igang Resort, Poblacion, Nueva Valencia, Guimaras Island
I would say that this wedding really aimed to defy tradition in every way! No frills, no complexities. Just a simple, straightforward affair in the presence of those who are closest to our hearts.
what we did differently:
- BRIDAL GOWN: my dress was bought completely off-the-rack. The beadwork done on my sandals were completely DIY!
- HAIR/MAKE-UP: Not only did I do my own hair and make-up, I was also the one who curled the hair of my maid-of-honor and bridesmaids!
- NO VEIL: I had a Bohemian headdress customized by my couturier friend, Ryan Sarangay
- RINGS: our wedding rings are black tungsten with just a very small diamond stud in the center. We used the same rings for our church wedding
- PHOTO/VIDEO: I just got two friends (who have experience in photo/video coverage) to document everything and give us the shots and raw footage. The final AVP of the wedding was edited by none other than yours truly. My very first try at video editing!
- SOUND SYSTEM: Believe it or not, I had to devise a way to hook up my laptop to the resort’s videoke machine (as in the deposit-5-peso-type videoke) machine by configuring a simple audio cable and plugging it into the videoke’s microphone input. Success!
- NO RECEPTION PROGRAM: just a simple dinner after the ceremony, and flying of sky lanterns at the beachfront (with much drinking afterwards!)
December 29, 2012 | 125 guests
San Antonio de Padua Parish, Taytay, Rizal | East Ortigas Mansions, Pasig City
Twelve days after our beach wedding, we found ourselves exchanging vows once again, but this time it was in front of God, the priest, and all our family members and relatives. Yes, it was the most acceptable, traditional way of getting married, but we managed to infuse our own unique plans into a most conservative, family-oriented affair.
- I sang the communion song “Panunumpa” while we knelt in front of the altar
- We did not do the traditional newlyweds’ first dance
- Our table names were all names of RnB artists
- We had to fold 125 origami paper flowers for each of our place settings at the reception
- For our pictorials at the reception, the table which had the most creative pose won a prize
- The bridal veil, second veil, pillow and cord were all borrowed from a friend
- Instead of using the traditional/regular leg garter, I used a garterized headband for babies/toddlers. Why do this? More cute designs to choose from.
So what was the aftermath of everything? Yes, we pulled it off, both times. But my husband and I learned a lot from this whole experience. We discovered that you don’t need to spend a lot in order to have an extra special celebration. You just need to think out of the box and unleash your creativity. Ultimately, we realized the essence of this whole endeavor. It didn’t really matter what kind of wedding we had, nor did it even matter how many times we got married to each other. What matters is that we did - and that’s the most important thing above everything else.
But given the opportunity to do it all over again? Hell yeah, I’d do it! I wouldn’t mind getting married a third or even a fourth time – as long as it’s to the same man.